Your First Christmas After Divorce
It’s the most wonderful time of the year—but if you’re going through a divorce, it can also be one of the most difficult. This is your first Christmas after divorce, and things are bound to be different. Here are some tips to help you get through it.
Don’t put pressure on yourself.
The holidays are a time for relaxation and enjoyment, so don’t put pressure on yourself to make everything perfect. Just focus on getting through the holidays and spending time with your loved ones.
It’s okay to take a low-key approach to Christmas this year. If you don’t feel like putting up a tree or decorating the house, don’t do it. Just do what feels right for you.
Don’t compare yourself to others.
It’s easy to look at other families and think they have it all together. But everyone has their own problems. You don’t know what goes on behind closed doors. So don’t compare yourself to others.
Spend time with your friends.
Christmas can be a lonely time, especially if you don’t have family nearby. But there are people who want to be there for you. Connect with your friends. Spending time with people who care about you will help you feel better and take your mind off of your divorce.
Do something for yourself.
The holidays are a great time to treat yourself. Whether it’s getting a massage, going on a shopping spree, or taking a trip somewhere, do something that makes you happy. You deserve it!
Be sure to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. This is not the time to let your health suffer. Make sure you’re eating well, getting enough sleep, and getting some exercise. And if you’re feeling really down, don’t hesitate to reach out to a therapist or counselor for help.
Do something to help others.
One of the best ways to get through tough times is to focus on helping others. This Christmas, make a point of doing something nice for someone else. It could be as simple as buying a coffee for the person behind you in line, or volunteering at a local soup kitchen.
Volunteering is a great way to get your mind off of not being able to spend the holidays with your family. Helping others is a great way to make yourself feel better and it’s a great way to give back during the holidays.
Make new traditions.
Just because your family is divided doesn’t mean you can’t make new traditions. If you have kids, involve them in creating new traditions that everyone can enjoy. No matter what you do, the important thing is to create new traditions that are meaningful to you and your family.
Focus on the positive.
It’s easy to dwell on the negative, but try to focus on the positive. What are you thankful for? What are you looking forward to in the new year? No one said divorce was easy. But it’s important to take care of yourself during this time. Allow yourself to grieve, but also focus on the positive. You’ll get through this.
No matter how you spend your first Christmas after divorce, just remember that it’s okay to feel sad, scared, or angry. Don’t try to bottle up your emotions. Instead, allow yourself to feel them. It’s also okay to laugh, have fun, and enjoy yourself. The most important thing is to just get through the holidays and focus on your own happiness. If you are currently going through a divorce and looking for someone to help you get through the legal process and provide you with support, contact us at Holly Hefton today!